It's been almost 1 year since I finished University, walked into the 'real world' and now I'm finding myself nearing my 22nd birthday. I don't understand how quickly I've had to grow up and become an actual adult - not having my 'student' status to fall back on - but let me share with you what I've learnt in what has been a gruelling but rewarding year...
able to travel, whenever you want. Being in University holds you back
from going to new places, with deadlines and lectures getting in the way
of holidays. Once you graduate, the only thing holding you back is
booking time off work which is so easy to do. Now, you can compulsively
book at trip to wherever you want without thinking about missing too
- You soon realise you can't drink as much as you used to. When I was in Uni, I was able to drink 2 cocktail pitchers and 8 sambuca shots in one night and still be standing. Now, I have 3 pints and I'm drunk as a skunk. Your alcohol tolerance goes waaaaay down and you realise you're not a teenager anymore.
discover who is worth sticking around for. It's true when they say that
you make friends for life when you're at Uni. What they fail to tell
you is that life gets in the way and you realise who is worth your time
based on how they fit you into their life. I've lost friendships since
leaving Uni, not because I - or they - wanted to, but being an adult you
sort out priorities and sometimes it just doesn't work out. As sad as
that is, I know that if a reunion was ever to happen, it'll be like
nothing has changed.
will end up choosing a night in over a night out. You'll find that
curling up with a blanket and watching films is more appealing that
getting glammed up, dancing the night away, drinking too much and leaving the club at 5am.
out, however, will be more of a big deal. Juggling a social night life
with a full time job is difficult but it makes it more enjoyable and fun
to do it every once in a while.
- Slowly but surely, your Facebook
feed will be filled with engagements, pregnancies and couples moving
in. Adult life really comes into play when you finish Uni, and so do the
babies, weddings and new houses. It's a real eye opener at times but
absolutely lovely when you see your friends so happy.
A normal sleeping pattern. Kind of. Gone are the days of slumming it
until 4am then waking up past midday. Working a full time job actually
requires sleep, trust me.
about working full time, it's nice to earn money that is actually
YOURS. You can budget properly and spend your money more sensibly. You
will have an itch sometimes where you want student life again but there
is something kinda nice about doing well for yourself.
Honestly, the worst time of my life was looking for a job - ANY job -
when I graduated. I spent around 4 months looking and I was absolutely
miserable. It will happen though, but stick at it, a job will come round
of the worst things about graduating is people asking the dreaded
question ... What are you doing now then? I recently went back to Uni to
a performance and pretty much everyone asked whether I'd done any
theatre work. But, the real world is different. Yes, I'm working at a
job that I really enjoy but it's not what I want to do forever. But
that's okay. Don't forget that you're still young. Not getting a job
relating to your degree straight away is more common than you'd think.
those that lived away, moving back in with your parents will make you
realise how independant you've become. It's nice, being back home, but I
can assure you, it won't be long before you want to live independently
again. University really helps young adults leave the nest and do their
more studying or lectures means you can actually spend time with loved
ones. When I was at Uni, I struggled a lot trying to juggle my
relationships outside of my little University bubble. Seeing more of
loved ones is a real treat.
back to number 10, you may doubt sometimes whether the time and money
was worth it. I've thought to myself 'I studied a 3 year degree, put so
much effort into it, ended up thousands of pounds in debt and now I
work in a coffee shop'. Never doubt your degree, it will always come in
handy - in your career and everyday life.
off are way more precious. Honestly, I went to Uni about 3 days a week
and spent a lot of my time just doing nothing in my second year. Now,
having a day off from work is time to do things, not just laze about on
the sofa all day.
may have a 'I can't afford food, bills are too expensive, I hate early
mornings, I don't like being an adult' breakdown. You're not the only
will realise that the entire world is yours now. You can do absolutely
anything you want if you put your mind to and work hard enough. There's a
strange kind of freedom to being out of education. If you're like me,
I've spent more of my life in education than not, and it's really
refreshing to not have that commitment.
couples who seemed strong will break up, and people you never expected
to, will get together. Relationships can change drastically. I spent
most of my life being the single friend and that was fine. Then as soon
as I graduated, I found myself in a relationship and fell in love. It's
not what I expected but I'm really happy.
down, you wouldn't change your time at University for the world. One
night, you'll be in a club and a song will come on that will take you
right back to your first Freshers week and you'll realise that there
will always be a student inside you somewhere.
Thank you for reading, I hope you all enjoyed this post. Let me know if you want to see anything in particular.
Love, Melissa x